If you can't change the thought of family, you can't change the society. The most responsible and important profession in contemporary world Is parenthood, but we pay seldom ear to it.
Upbringing ,training and enriching is main responsibility of parents, and futuristic society entirely depends on human capital i.e. children, youths.
In our society, parents never taught their children, how to treat and do by with situations. In our homes, Girls before marriage are never instructed,How to be mother. Similarly Boys are never educated ,How to be amenable and liable father. So ,most accountable responsibility of parents is only upbringing and enriching the child.
If we will talk according to Science there are three stages right from birth in which you have to take care of your child.
▪︎Ist STAGE(NURSING STAGE):- this stage starts from birth to 7 years. Also called stage of exploration . You have to take care of your child like Nurse to patient. Care of food, clothing, surrounding factors etc. Please don't pressurize your child till 7 years to be disciplinary in religious and sciences.
Allah has poured greatness with superlative degree in every human being .These are parents and locals who are stopping him/her . Our society pressurize their children to stop him/her from achieving greatness. So , after feeling pressure he/she stops giving opinions and takes the replica of our prosaic people.
2nd, when the child starts crawling, let him/her crawl. Don't force him/her to walk . The more the child will crawl ,the capacity of brain will automatically increase. So you no right to suppress him/her natural capacity. Let him/her grow.
Then from 2 years- 2½ years ,child starts speaking. By this it is assure everybody holds greatness from Allah the Almighty, because you can't learn one ,two or more languages now ,than in this stage(2-2½). Now the capacity in child starts building . You can't suppress him/her to be disciplinary, otherwise you will act as suppressant . Let him/her ask questions, opinions etc.
As a mother ,be very close to your child .Don't scat him/her to schools and classes for your pseudo_comfort. At this stage he/she needs oxytocin, that isn't available in school or at anywhere, but in home. If you will scat him/her as mother , you are not less than criminal then.
▪︎ 2nd STAGE:- this stage starts from 7 years to 12 years. Also called stage of facilitation. In this stage, there is demand list of children. Don't try to cover up and hush up your child . You have to facilitate him/her. In this stage if you will give 50 subjects to child , He/She will rock all 50 subjects with nice grades. But we are doing against it .we are giving only few, with this capacity starts decreasing.
Try to offer him/her organic exposure,(not TV screen). If you are not using his/her capacity ,it is like that you are using only 2, 3 buttons of machine.
At the age of 12 frontal compartment of brain is formed called frontal cortex. Conciousness ,heed, observance signal comes from this. So here, you have to train him/her according to good religious ethics etc.
Justification of sin, the moral voice comes from this cortex , it is incumbent to use it well.
3rd STAGE:- this stage starts from 12 years to end . Also called age of reflection. The directions and trainings you gave to your child , He /She will reflect that . If he/she was critical thinker till 15,16 years ,accordingly he/she will act till life and vice versa.
The great human minds existed in the world till , would have been triggered by parents, teachers or friends. Also in this stage , the brain starts argument with everyone. So it is the colossal responsibility of parents to channelise in a direction where the product is like Iqbal, jinnah or others.
Therefore ,It is lucid your next society is your child . Care him/her as a good responsible and accountable parent. In above stages pour the islamic thought in their minds. This is how greatness is created.
Written by SHAHEEN SUHAIL
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